Love is hell
Heard a story the other day about a guy whose long-term girlfriend cheated on him, and now the guy’s had a breakdown and is bordering on suicidal. Sounds rather extreme, but…it’s not entirely unheard of. Though it does make you wonder what could drive someone to despair that deep, the intensity of feeling that suddenly gets turned upside down. In short, he must’ve loved her very much. Probably too much.
But then again, if you’re in a serious relationship, aren’t you supposed to love someone as much as is imaginably possible? Otherwise, why bother being in one? I might add this is all theoretical for me, as I can only imagine how I would act were I in a serious relationship myself. It’s easy to say that I would have feelings as deep, and that I wouldn’t allow heartbreak and grief to drive me to the brink of insanity, but it’s still in the realm of possibility that I could be breaking out the razor blades after having my feelings mercilessly trampled on.
I don’t really want that; I don’t think anyone wants that, either for themselves or others (well, duh). So prevention is the key. I want a relationship with someone I’d go mad over, and who’d be mad over me, without the actual going mad part. So how does one do that? Beats me; maybe when I’m actually in a relationship I’ll have a better idea, apart from the obvious, namely reducing as many reasons as possible for dumping each other. Hopefully I’ll figure it out when I get around to it, though in the meantime it might be a good idea to get the razor blades stashed away.
October 17th, 2005 at 12:50 am
Assalaaamu’alaikum Wr Wb..kek..kek..kek..Blog mu selalu menghibur (gue selalu baca btw..music review nya sih sebenarnya since I trust your music taste)…Tapi this kind of Nick Hornby-ish thought lumayan juga..it gets me to compare to our junior and high school primbon where the problems written inside paling banter cuma turus hitungan Pak guru “akunting galak” ngomong “yaitu” or is it another word?… can’t remember..Anyway,ever thinking of setting up e-primbon?
October 19th, 2005 at 11:07 am
Wa’alaikum salam,
Well, it’s nice to know someone finds it entertaining…and actually lets me know about it (hint, hint to everyone else…a writer craves feedback!). Dunno if I’ll do too many posts like this, because: 1. I’m rarely thoughtful, 2. Whenever I’m thoughtful I can’t really articulate it, either due to incompetence or embarrassment. So I don’t know if I’d set up an “e-primbon,” but nice idea, though…
October 24th, 2005 at 12:05 am
Hasief
So sweet…
terutama kata-kata:
“Aren’t you supposed to love someone as much as is imaginably possible”
yah memang, reality tends to push you to rationality, but rational love is not passionate.. what is love without passion?
hidup passion.. (lho?)
October 27th, 2005 at 11:27 pm
Yup, balance is important. So if you can find that balance in someone, then I guess you’re a very fortunate person.